“You will fail but it’s ok. It’s your first time being a parent and it’s her first time being a baby. She won’t know what’s right or wrong. Just do your best, love her and everything is going to be ok.” Those words, spoken to me by our pediatrician, were soothing to my ears as I was laying in the hospital with my firstborn in my arms; right before being discharged to take her home for the first time.
Today, when I was sitting at the chiropractor’s office waiting to get adjusted (this mommy’s back needed some bones popped back in place #momlife), I was thinking about those words. No birthing classes, no parenting classes, no advise spoken can truly prepare a mother- and/or father-to-be for what’s to come. Only the Word of God penetrates deep enough to give some kind of a glimpse into parenthood before you find yourself in the middle of it. And it all starts at conception.
Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court.
– Psalm 127:3-5
Parenting children isn’t a cake walk. As a matter of fact it is harder than anything I’ve ever done. It’s harder than a 60-hour a week job, it’s harder than the hardest workout, it’s harder than a period of hardship because it is a 24/7 job that affects every part of your life, for the rest of your life. It also affects your environment even when you’re long gone; for generations to come.
When I reflect on my journey of becoming a mom it didn’t have a very glorious start at all. It began with heart wrenching experiences of the loss of three babies, fertility treatments, battling fears and diagnoses that weren’t fun. But then again, who said it was easy?
Psalm 127 depicts a picture of a warrior in battle, not a boring lady in a rocking chair. You see, every single child that’s ever been born in the history of humankind has been born during some type of unrest. God designed every single person in His own image but there’s an enemy that doesn’t want our children to see that truth. There’s an enemy that is terrified of the possibility of our children to understand who they are created to be, what they are capable of, the victory they have in Jesus and for them to understand that they are the children of the Most High God whom they can call Abba Father.
Therefore, it is my duty to train up my children in the ways that are good (Romans 12:2), moral and most importantly godly – teach them the word of God so that they can use it to be successful in life and to walk in victory no matter what circumstances they may find themselves in in the future. After all, God’s Word is sharper than any double-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). God promises to equip you with everything for doing his will (Hebrews 13:20). You are not alone.
On those days where I don’t “feel” equipped, or ready for the task, or I find myself losing perspective because my ToDo list is larger than I want it to be, I look at this picture I made
It reminds me that I am a warrior, that I have the honor and privilege of raising two girls, two daughters, whose whole lives are still ahead of them, whose minds are like sponges absorbing anything and everything, and whose lives I am called to steward well. That doesn’t mean that my job as a parent is easy. No, it’s hard. And looking at it from the perspective of Psalm 127 it can be overwhelming. But it is not by accident that they are my girls. Therefore, I will do everything in my power (being super glad that God is strong in my weaknesses) to train them now so that they can fight easy for the rest of their lives because they will be equipped for any battle that’s to come, no matter how hard it may be. Yes, it does include rocking them in the rocking chair and praying over them. Afterall, I want them to understand that when they are on their knees giving it all to God that’s when they have the victory. No weapon forged against them will prosper because they are daughters of The King. #TrainHard.FightEasy.