Trust in a Relationship, is that even possible these days?

Let’s look at Proverbs 31:11 today:

Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value. – Proverbs 31:11 (NIV)

The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain. – Proverbs 31:11 (NKJV)

The Heart leb (lāv) (Hebrew) means inner man, mind, will, heart (of moral character), soul, knowledge, reflection, memory, inclination, resolution, determination (of will). The heart is a seat of emotions, passions, and as seat of courage. It derives from the root word labab (lä·vav’) which means to take heart, become intelligent, encourage, to make the heart beat faster.

The human heart provides a continuous blood circulation through the cardiac cycle and is one of the most vital organs in the human body. The human heart has four chambers, two superior atria and two inferior ventricles. The atria are the receiving chambers and the ventricles are the discharging chambers.  There is a thick wall of muscle separating the right side and the left side of the heart called the septum. The right ventricle discharges into the lungs to oxygenate the blood. The left ventricle discharges its blood toward the rest of the body via the aorta.

To trust batach (bä·takh’) to have confidence, be confident, to be bold, to be secure, to cause to trust, make secure to feel safe, be careless

Now that we have looked at definitions of the words heart and trust we can connect verse 11 with verse 10 and look at it in context.

The heart to me is the center of a person; it’s where life springs fourth – when the heart is kept healthy and provided with the right amount of blood, and oxygen and other important components. Or it’s also the place where death occurs when the heart is worn out, damaged, and just not strong enough anymore.

I believe as women it is our call and partial responsibility (I say partial because the man has to make a choice about growing more and more into the man God has called him to be through the word as well) to keep the man’s heart going. As a wife strives to become more virtuous and the shining, clear ruby she is called to be she pumps good and healthy substance into her husband’s heart.  As she does that, respects him, supports him, protects his heart (as a rib cage does.. that’s a whole other road I wish I’d have time to walk down with you right now) he has confidence in her and trusts her, knowing that he doesn’t have to worry about his children, his home, or his reputation.

Titus 2:5 tells us that women are the keepers of the house and also gives another description of her character trades that give God glory.

1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed”. – Titus 2:5

Now, always remember, life is a learning process, we don’t have to be wonder woman from one day to the next.  Don’t get frustrated with yourself when you have a bad day and you’re not perfect. The vital part is though that you get back on your feet instantly, walk in forgiveness to yourself and those around you and pursue God’s will for your life as you strive to become more virtuous daily, more victorious as the woman of God He has called you to be.



Tanja has a heart for reaching the lost, is passionate about seeing women become who God has designed them to be and seeing a generation discover their destiny and walk in victory. Having been a widow herself, her messages of life, purpose and victory in the midst of adversity are encouraging and are rallying a generation to reach the lost and brokenhearted. Read more...

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